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A Tale of Two Stories




That is the story we should be talking about. That little light that came into the world. That ministry of hope and reconciliation. That is the story. A different story. A better story. But that is not the story that dominates the headlines. That's not the story that controls our Facebook feeds. The story that informs our conversations with people. No, the story that we hear all around us centers on fear, on safety, on anger, or on revenge.

Every crazy and disturbing comment you read on Facebook, every discouraging conversation with someone who claims to be a Christian, and every brazen refusal to obey Jesus you encounter comes because that person has bought into a false narrative. People think that this false story is the godly story. That God approves of this story. But God doesn’t. We’ve misunderstood the story and as a result, we have lived wrongly. Our job is to tell a different story, a better story—the story of God coming in the flesh and beginning the process of restoration.

People have just bought into a wrong story. They believe an Orwellian idea that peace comes about through force. That love is weak. That evil must be used to overcome evil. We share a different story.

As we're entering the Christmas, it's as appropriate a time as any to talk about the Incarnation. The story of the Incarnation is the story of the Bible. Incarnation is the embodiment of something in another form. It's the churchy word for God coming down in the flesh as Jesus. Because God the Father really has no normal physical form, at least that we know of. He is a spiritual being and doesn’t look like anything until He becomes incarnate in another form. A burning bush, fire on top of a mountain, lightning and thunder. God comes on the scene, appears in some form, and incarnation happens. We don’t always understand it—how it happens—that’s why it is a mystery. But we understand why. God appears and manifests himself in order to make a difference.

The story of incarnation is the story of restoration—God coming into our midst and making things better. God did it in the story of Adam and Eve, when he empowered them to be fruitful and multiply and fellowshipped with them in the Garden. God did it with Abraham when he appeared and blessed Abraham so that Abraham and his offspring could bless the entire world. God did it with Moses, when he appeared in a burning bush and said he had heard the cry of the Israelite slaves and would break their chains. God did it when he appeared on top of Mount Sinai and gave the Law so that they could worship him and love one another. God did it when he aided the Israelites in their efforts to enter into the Promised Land and set them up as the people of the land. Every one of those was a response to the sin that had marred the world. Every incarnation of God was an attempt to restate the Divine Story that had been ignored, forgotten, and rejected. They are attempts to restore things to their perfected state. And in everyone of those stories, people failed to do their end of the bargain. They lacked faithfulness to God causing things to remain broken.

And the same thing happened when the Kingdom of Israel was established. They did not live in their purpose. They looked to idols and other gods for safety and security and prosperity. They sold out their story. And so God sent the prophets to convict and indict in the hope that they would be restored back to him.

This was true in the time of Isaiah and God spoke through him to address it,
The LORD has said to me in the strongest terms: “Do not think like everyone else does. Do not be afraid that some plan conceived behind closed doors will be the end of you. Do not fear anything except the LORD Almighty. He alone is the Holy One. If you fear him, you need fear nothing else. He will keep you safe” (Isaiah 8:11-14a NLT).
Then he contrasts the way things should be with the way things are:
And when they say to you, “Inquire of the mediums and the necromancers who chirp and mutter,” should not a people inquire of their God? Should they inquire of the dead on behalf of the living?  To the teaching and to the testimony! If they will not speak according to this word, it is because they have no dawn.  They will pass through the land, greatly distressed and hungry. And when they are hungry, they will be enraged and will speak contemptuously against their king and their God, and turn their faces upward.  And they will look to the earth, but behold, distress and darkness, the gloom of anguish. And they will be thrust into thick darkness (Isaiah 8:19-22 ESV).
There is no dawn. That's sad. I don't know how they keep their dishes clean.

Seriously, it's amazing how timely and pertinent those words are. They are applicable today just as much as they were 2,700 years ago. In a world of turmoil and distress, everyone is looking for answers. Answers that will calm our fears. Assure us of the future. And because we have believed the false story, we go to all the wrong places. In Isaiah’s day instead of going to God, they went to mediums and necromancers. Now, mediums and necromancers aren't all that prominent. But we also have our places that teach things contrary to God. We may got to politicians or celebrities for hope. And the principle is that if we go to a place that isn't teaching the things of God to learn the basic principles of how to live our life, then we will be living our life out of step with God. Because the only thing to be found in the wrong places is more darkness. They have no dawn as Isaiah said. There is no light in them.

And while it is not terribly helpful to set up an “us vs. them” mentality, it is even more destructive just accepting everything that the world tells us is right. Swallowing the fear that the world wants us to have. Kindling the hate that they want us to have. The reality is, our thinking is contrary to their thinking. Just like it was for God's people in the days of Isaiah. We don’t think like everyone else does. We don’t fear the things the world does. We don’t revere the things the world does. We don’t look for solutions the way the world does. We are to be different than the world, so we don’t react and retaliate the way the world does. Because you won’t find a happy ending in the story the world wants us to live. They have no dawn.

Martin Luther King Jr. said,  "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."

And faced with a world that has a story that really doesn't bring hope, it's in the Incarnation that we find an alternative story. A way of light and love in the midst of all this darkness.

John begins his Gospel by telling this story:
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.  He was in the beginning with God.  All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made.  In him was life, and the life was the light of men... And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.  John 1:1-4, 14 (ESV)
Just like God had done numerous times before in the days of the Israelites, God showed up to clean up our mess. The light entered into our darkness. God wrapped himself in flesh and came down into our world. And the reason was the same as it was during every incarnation before—to restore all things. To bring the wayward child home. To give us hope and a future.

Ronald Wallace in Elijah and Elisha describes our situation with the following:
 "We need not despair when we see great movements of evil achieving spectacular success on this earth, for we may be sure that God, in unexpected places, has already secretly prepared His counter-movement...Therefore the situation is never hopeless where God is concerned. Whenever evil flourishes, it is always a superficial flourish, for at the height of the triumph of evil God will be there, ready with His man and His movement and His plans to ensure that His own cause will never fail."
When everything looked dark; when all hope seemed to be lost; when the story was almost forgotten, God stepped in. Galatians 4:4 says that at just the right time, God sent his Son. God’s solution was wrapping his divinity with humanity in the person of Jesus.

God wanted us back. God wanted to restore things to the way they used to be. When God created, God loved it all. He declared it good. God loved us. Life ran perfectly. We were in a perfect relationship with him and one another. We had perfect purpose. Perfect provision. Perfect protection from anything bad. It was even perfect in that we had a choice to keep it that way. But humanity chose poorly then and we choose poorly now. It’s not at all like it once was. We're starting from a fallen state this time, but God wants to set it right again. That’s the process of restoration. And that is the goal of incarnation—for God to reconcile people back to Himself. To take us out of the darkness. To show us what it means to really live—free from fear, free from slavery to sin, free from hate. The incarnation is a story of passion. Jesus took on flesh so that people could see God as he really is and see how God wants us to live.

God is still doing the same thing through you, through me, and through all who believe and follow the divine story.

Twenty years ago, when I was in college, the WWJD bracelets were all the craze. Everyone would wear them. The concept behind the bracelets was a good thing. It was a constant reminder to do what Jesus would have us do. Of being a light in this dark world.

The incarnation does not end with Jesus. It continues through us as we embrace the story of light. Jesus was sent not just for salvation, but as Dallas Willard has said, “Jesus teaches you to live your life as He would live your life.”

And this is the point of the incarnation. This is the point of us surrendering to Jesus. We echo the words he said in the garden before His suffering, "Not my will but yours be done."

Even on the cross he showed us a different way when he said, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34a ESV).

He taught us, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God" (Matthew 5:9 ESV).

And one of the more challenging teachings: “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’  But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,  so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven" (Matthew 5:43-44 ESV).

He's setting up a different story.

The world says to not forgive. The world says to retaliate. The world says that blessed are the conquerors. The world says to hate our enemies. But Jesus gives us a different story. Which story are we going to buy into? Which one are we going to live our lives centered on?

There always seems to be this flirtation in Christianity with an easy faith. You raise your hand, say a prayer, or get baptized and you have given your life to Jesus. But that just isn't the totality of it all. Sure, raise your hand and proclaim your faith. Say a prayer and ask for forgiveness of your sins. Get baptized as a joining of you in the death and resurrection of Jesus. Those are good things, but those things in themselves don't make us Christians. We are Christians because we have decided that Jesus' plan for our lives and this world is better than the best plans we can come up for ourselves. His story is better than our stories. Being a Christian, means loving the people that Jesus loves. It means living the way that Jesus wants us to live. It means buying so much into Jesus' idea for this world that we sacrifice our own lives - our own plans and desires-  our time and our energy - we sacrifice it all to follow Jesus. And we don't let the modern-day mediums or necromancers who may be talking heads on the television, scholars who have written books, a well-intentioned yet misguided friend, or anyone else steer us away from passionately pursuing the things of Jesus over the things of this world.

If you haven't done that, surrendered your life to the plan of Jesus, then I invite you to do that today. Don't hesitate if it is something you want.

Because here is the thing. Satan and this world is going to try and destroy us. There is a false narrative thriving around us. Fear, hatred, greed, selfishness - the list of sinful traits goes on and on. But what I see is that they become commonly accepted after events like the attacks on Paris. They peep their abscessed, boil ridden head out of their dark, damp, and musty hole at times like these. And for some reason, many are convinced that the freak of nature is beautiful when all that it brings is death and destruction.

At the core of this tension there is a conflict between the false story of the world and the story of restoration in Jesus. There is a tension between two kingdoms: The Kingdom of God and the Kingdoms of this world - America in our context. The Kingdom of God teaches us to love strangers and protect ourselves. The Kingdom of America tells us to protect ourselves. The Kingdom of God teaches us to leave vengeance to God. The Kingdom of America tells us to take things into our own hands. Which story do we live buy? Times like these really challenge us on whether we are willing to follow Jesus even when we don't want to.

When I first planned this piece, it was going to be much different than what you just heard. It was going to be a nice story about the incarnation. About God in flesh. About how we need to be more like that with a lot of good, touching, and hopefully inspiring stories. But that was before 43 people died in a suicide bombing in Beirut, Lebanon a week ago Thursday. This was before as many as 129 people died in those nearly surreal attacks in Paris a week ago Friday. And even Friday, our town had a young man kill himself. During these times, we struggle to make sense of things. This other message was before people I know to be Christian cried out for blood and revenge on their Facebook pages. This was before I talked with friends who I thought shared my values; values derived from this story we have talked about here today. These friends are giving into their fear and have turned their backs on refugees who are crying out for help, suffering from the very violence we are disgusted by. Many people are following the wrong story at a crucial time in our history.

I had a nice, encouraging piece lined up to start the Christmas season. But that was before the story of life took a twisted turn. It was before all these events combined to testify against us. To convict us of selling out our true story—the story of the incarnation. Of buying into some tall tale, some fable, some flight of fancy that somehow takes the divine image away and replaces it with the idol of self. A story where it is more appealing to be practical than faithful.  Like Adam and Eve we have bought into a story that lies causing us to have these destructive yet timeless thoughts: “Did God really say that? You can’t be serious. God can’t be serious. Love your enemies? Pray for those who persecute you? That’s stupid. It won't work.” From the beginning of time, there has been a little voice in our head that whispers this message: "You don't really need to be incarnational - to be like Jesus. You actually don't have time, and it won't work anyway. So just go back to your own life and try to survive as best as you can." And even when we fall prey and believe it at times, God is faithful when we are not and continues to seek restoration. 

We need to reclaim His story - our ultimate story. The story of the incranation. It is God in us. It is God coming into the world, bringing light, bringing hope, and bringing restoration. If our story is anything other than that, if we let anything else other than that dictate our thoughts and actions, then we’ve been deceived. We’ve bought into a false narrative—a false story.

We need more people like Antoine Leiris who lost his wife Helene in the violence that shook Paris. He penned a poignant tribute to his wife on Monday, publishing it on his Facebook page:
“On Friday night you stole the life of an exceptional being, the love of my life, the mother of my son, but you won't have my hatred. If this God for which you kill indiscriminately made us in his own image, every bullet in the body of my wife will have been a wound in his heart.

So no, I don't give you the gift of hating you. You are asking for it but responding to hatred with anger would be giving in to the same ignorance that made you what you are.  You want me to be afraid, to view my fellow countrymen with mistrust, to sacrifice my freedom for security. You have lost.”

I don’t have all the answers. And I won’t trivialize this crisis by suggesting that there is some easy solution. This is one of the most complex and complicated geo-political situations in my lifetime. And it is the responsibility of the elected leaders to figure out a solution, to enforce laws, to keep order, to look out for the general welfare of the constituents. But it is my job, your job, and every Christian’s job to reconcile people to God. To be God in the flesh to all we encounter. To love people. To pray for people. To be a light in the darkness. Our world desperately needs to come out of its dark thinking and neverending cycle of violence. In this depressing, dark existence, our world needs light--the same light that entered our world some 2000 years ago. The words of Isaiah can be repeated about our generation, "They have no dawn." Yet Jesus came into the world to shine a light and he continues to shine His light through us because we are the image of God.

Jesus became flesh to add an exclamation point to His perfect, divine story that we are supposed to be part of. He came to kickstart the process of reconciliation. We have a tendency to think of change through a top-down approach. In that framework, it is believed that the politicians or the powers that be need to be convinced of the change that needs to happen in our society for it to come about. But Jesus had a different story. He brought change from a bottom-up approach. Through humility rather the worldly instruments of power. He never once tried to grasp earthly reins of power. Instead, he tried to change the hearts and the minds of the people around Him. 

But if this world is going to be reconciled with God. If it is going to have its heart changed, that reconciliation must start with us. In us. The way we live. The way we express ourselves. Following Jesus isn't easy. Sometimes it is really difficult because the current of the world's story is trying to pull us under. But Jesus wants us to give Him our all. Jesus wanted to change the world and He does that by changing the way we live our life day in and day out.

God became flesh and came to dwell among us as a baby in a manger. God is the master of creating compelling story. Eventually this led to the cross. He was willing to go through all of the pain and suffering of life to reconcile this world to Himself. He was telling a different story. Because God turns crucifixions into a resurrections.

Restoration is the goal of the incarnation. Jesus wrapped himself in flesh to put an exclamation point on the story of restoration. We then turn around and do the same in our world. To our neighbors, to strangers, even to enemies. We let God wrap us in himself. And through us, God wraps His love around others. We exemplify a different story by the way we live. Our humility and living the way God wants us to live is the way the Incranation becomes real today and changes our world. It's light in the darkness. It's the broken being repaired. It's restoration. This is our story, and it's not over yet!

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This piece was co-written with Samuel Long.

The Day After. Duck Dynasty. Phil Robertson. A&E. And Jesus.

Yesterday, we all figured out how to digest Phil Robertson losing his job, yet he has more money than most of us will ever have. He'll be fine.

How about today and tomorrow we spend time figuring out how to help those who aren't as well off as Phil Robertson. For that matter, not even close to being as well off as us. The least of these.

It's Christmastime and there are people who are in great need around the world. We can help.

For some reason, we get more excited over an issue like this rather than helping the poor who are dying from bad drinking water and being malnourished. I think our priorities are wrong.

If we mobilized in a similar fashion to stop world hunger, to provide clean drinking water, good education or health care around the world, or to stand up for our brothers and sisters in Syria being slaughtered, I think the church would be a better witness for Jesus.

I wonder how we stand up for our rights and still look like Jesus. Can we do both?

I'm reminded of the humble act of Jesus at this time of year. He had all the reason in the world to not humble Himself, to stand up for His rights, yet He counted others as better than Himself and did it all for our sake.
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross (Philippians 2:3-8 ESV).
This is the Christmas story. God emptied himself and took on the likeness of us. When we refuse to allow the true story of Christmas to be drowned out by all the noise and busyness of this season, we see that this example of God becoming flesh was done to teach us how to live.

It's tough to follow in His steps and consider others better than ourselves. That word, "better" in the original language has to do with something of surpassing or exceptional value. It's the same word Paul used in Philippians 3:8 when he says, "I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord." This is a radical teaching. Jesus had the attitude that we were better than He was. Jesus viewed us as better than Himself. Jesus. Me. Better. That's crazy. But that's what love is. And Paul calls us to have that same view toward others—an attitude that cherishes one another, extols the value of one another, and looks for the best in one another instead of the worst. When we do that--when we start to love others the way God loves them, it will be much easier to be humble and sacrifice for them.

Maybe we need to follow in His steps and do the same, humble ourselves and serve. It's always difficult though. How do we make the executives at A&E feel loved and that we view them as better than ourselves while also encouraging and supporting our brothers and sisters? I fear that they may feel just as attacked as we do. Have we fallen prey to joining in on a cycle of attack? If we cause them to lose their job over the stance that they took, are we any better? Are we actually viewing them like Jesus did, as being more significant than ourselves?

The boycott page on Facebook already has 1.3 million likes. That's amazing. That's more than World Vision has accumulated in years. We could stop world hunger if we had the will as a people. Western civilization eats more frozen desserts in a year than it would take to end world hunger. It is estimated that it would take about 4% of our military budget to stop world hunger. We just don't want it. It just breaks my heart.

I would love for us to mobilize like we are showing that we can for Duck Dynasty, except this time to stop world hunger. If we could channel this passion, fervor, and zeal into that, imagine what could happen.

I doubt we will. Our passion is more directed at this because we do feel threatened that our freedoms could be lost. Although, I don't believe this is a first amendment issue, it is an issue where we feel that we can't express beliefs that we share in fear that people will come after us. I'm reminded of Louie Giglio at Obama's inauguration ceremony, Orson Scott Card writing Superman, and then this. If you upset gay activists, they have proven that they will go after your job. I agree that it is scary.

But we currently have our freedoms yet we still have world hunger. Maybe we aren't using our freedom the way we should.
For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another (Galatians 5:13 ESV).
We have been blessed to be a blessing.

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I just wanted to link three of my favorite organizations doing the work I mention in this post. If you are looking for a place to direct a Christmas gift this year, I am sure they would appreciate your support.

Change Agent Network
Hope 2 Liberia
International Disaster Emergency Service

A Sacrificial Christmas

Have you ever wondered what the world would be like without you?

Through the mistake of another, George Bailey was going to lose his business. He had hit rock bottom. Despair crept in. He wondered what the world would be like without him

In his despair, as we sometimes feel in despair, George Bailey went to that bridge intending to kill himself because he thought the world would be better off without him.

I once heard the story of a man who was contemplating committing suicide like George Bailey was. But instead of killing himself, he decided to smuggle Bibles into China. If he was caught and killed, that would be fine with him. But instead, through the process, he found meaning in his life.

I don’t know if that story is true or not. It may just be a modern parable, but it illustrates the point that we truly live - we find meaning in our lives - when we die to ourselves and begin to live our lives for Jesus. For when we surrender to Jesus we start living the life that we were made to live. When we despair and everything seems to be crumbling around us, we should commit ourselves or recommit ourselves to picking up the shards of our dreams and letting Jesus put them back together as we head into the future. To find our true destiny, we should surrender our will to God’s will and live for Him.

We impact the world one way or another. The question is whether we will impact it for good.

When Jesus was asked what the most important teaching was, he replied that God is one, that we should love Him with every bit of who we are and to love our neighbors like we love ourselves.


Shane Claiborne shares an old story from the early church. Christians were spread throughout the desert and lived in little clusters of communities. Someone had brought one of the communities a bundle of grapes as a gift. That was quite a delicacy, maybe sort of like giving someone chocolate truffles today. They got so excited, and what happened next is fascinating. Rather than devour them all, they didn’t eat a single one. They passed them on to the next community to enjoy. And that community did the same thing. And eventually, those grapes made it through every community and back to the first community without being eaten. Everyone simply wanted the others to experience the joy of the gift....As Shane says: “The best thing to do with the best things in life is to give them away.” (edited from an excerpt from Shane Claiborne’s The Irresistible Revolution: Living as an Ordinary Radical 167-168).

This kind of love doesn't seem to come natural to us. To love others as we love ourselves. But it is the kind of love we are called to. Actually, Paul makes it a little more sacrificial than just that.
So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy,  complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.  Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.  Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,  who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped,  but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.  And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name,  so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth,  and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father (Philippians 2:1-11 ESV).
This is the Christmas story. God emptied himself and took on the likeness of us. When we refuse to allow the true story of Christmas to be drowned out by all the noise and busyness of this season, we see that this example of God becoming flesh was done to teach us how to live.

But as the Philippians passage shows, there are some obstacles to living the life Jesus lived. Paul shares two obstacles to love.


Obstacles to Love:

- Selfish ambition.

- Conceit.

Abraham Lincoln had a neighbor who was drawn to Lincoln's door one day by the sound of the crying of children. He saw Lincoln passing by with his two sons, both crying lustily. "What is the matter with the boys?" asked the man. "Just what is the matter with the whole world!" answered Lincoln. "I have three walnuts, and each boy wants two. (—London Christian Herald)

But our world teaches us to be selfish. The CEO and Opportunity Shaper at Now Possible says, "Let's get real. If you want a great career and wonderful life, you need to be spectacularly selfish..." We're taught that greed is good. Our society sometimes seems like a bizarro world compared to the teachings of Jesus.

These thoughts go directly against what we were made to be. And if we buy into them, we miss out. Our world misses out. Life isn't about the homes, the cars, the gifts, or whatever physical thing we make it about. Even when we celebrate the birth of Jesus, instead of seeing the culture inundated with profound acts of self-sacrifice, which would be more appropriate in celebrating the birth of Jesus, it's about consumerism, gluttony, Black Friday, and shopping.

Yet Paul unlocks how we can do this. We need to have a new view of ourselves.


New view of self:

- In humility count others as more significant than yourselves.

- Look to the interest others, not just our own.

You may have heard humility described as "Humility isn't thinking less of yourself, its thinking about yourself less." Preachers like to come up with these witty sayings. It's catchy, yet I think that disagrees with the teaching of Paul. It makes humility more palatable, but who said humility had to be palatable? Who says we need an easy faith? We're supposed to respond with surrender, with sacrifice. And in our desire to make the faith more appealing, we cheapen the lofty humility that Paul teaches us to have, a humility exemplified in the Christmas story that we celebrate this time of year. God emptying Himself of all his deserved privilege and taking on the form of a baby. 

It's tough to follow in His steps and consider others better than ourselves. That word, "better" in the original language has to do with something of surpassing or exceptional value. It's the same word Paul uses in Philippians 3:8 when he says, "I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord." This is a radical teaching. Jesus had the attitude that we were better than He was. Jesus viewed us as better than Himself. But that's what love is. And Paul calls us to have same view toward other -- an attitude that cherishes one another; that extols the value of one another; that looks for the best in one another instead of the worst. When we do that -- when we start to love others the way God loves them -- it will be much easier to be humble and sacrifice for them.

Then Paul moves on to two characteristics that Jesus exhibited that we are to adapt to our lives.


 Self-sacrifice:

- Be willing to empty ourselves for others.

- Be obedient to God even in the hard stuff.

"Mary Brenner was a twice-divorced mother of eight children when she began doing volunteer work for the poor in Mexico in the 1960s. She had been active in charity work in California while she was married," living a comfortable life in Beverly Hills "but her devotion intensified after a priest led her to La Mesa state penitentiary, which housed convicted murderers, gang leaders, rapists and other serious felons."

She was faced with a call to self-sacrifice. Or to continue living her comfortable life. She was in her 50s, yet she still decided to heed God's call.

'Mary began providing for inmates’ basic needs, giving them aspirin, blankets, toiletries and prescription eyeglasses. She sang in worship services....If a prisoner died, of illness or in a gang fight, she prepared him for burial."

But this is the amazing part. She didn't just minister to the prisoners at La Mesa. She asked to move in and then actually moved into a cell to live alongside those she was called to minister to. A woman, moving into a male prision because God called her to it.

"Inmates told how Mary once walked into the middle of a prison riot while bullets flew and tear gas filled the air. When the inmates saw her, fearless in her habit, the fighting stopped. She never seemed to stop smiling."

Sadly, Mary Brenner passed away this October. Will you help fill this gap? (quotes on Mary Brenner from Antonia Brenner, ‘Prison Angel’ Who Took Inmates Under Her Wing, Is Dead at 86)

Self-sacrifice makes love real. There is love. We can say we love prisoners all we want. Or we can say that we love so and so. All words without sacrifice. But these proclamations of love are abstract and meaningless to the one we proclaim to love until our words are connected with self-sacrifice. Self-sacrifice makes the love we have toward someone become real to them.

Yet we sometimes do a disservice to sacrifice. Stories like Mary Brenner's story are amazing. Yet we can then fell defeated and unable to accomplish such lofty tasks. Maybe that's what you are feeling right now. "I can't possibly go and live in a male penitentiary like she did. They wouldn't even allow me to."

Your sacrifice does not have to look like hers. If each of us are committed to following God, He will orchestrate us all into a symphony. We will be living out our faith in the places where we need to. Our self-sacrifice may be giving time to make a meal for someone, visiting someone who is lonely, taking care of a sick loved one, or whatever it is you that you sacrifice your own life so that you can give to others. Those acts of love, when they are in response to God and intermingle with the Holy Spirit, are just as meaningful as moving into a prison and ministering to those prisoners. God has this amazing way of meshing our meager sacrifices together to bring Himself glory. One sacrifice at a time, we are being used to create a song of love.

See how this all works.

We are so often, as Christians, focused on receiving the blessing, whether it is a blessing from God or someone else. We may hear people complain about not getting something out of a church's worship gathering or that the church isn't doing this or that. But God is saying, "Stop being the kid at Christmas; it's time to give the presents."

Christmas is about being reminded of the sacrifice God made to live as flesh among us. It's about him emptying Himself of all the privilege and honor that He rightfully deserves to be a blessing for us. We often miss the beauty and majesty of this story and respond by getting hung up on the being blessed part.


This is a difficult issue because being blessed is typically a byproduct of the Christian life. People's lives are often transformed and improved, even by the world's standards, when they become a Christian. But being a follower of Jesus can never be about the blessings. We have this tendency to explain Christian teachings through the framework of selfishness to appeal to the selfish people around. Even to our own selfish natures. But we shouldn't. We have to remove our selfishness to be who God wants us to be.

And this goes against all modern sales methods. In sales, the salesperson tries to show the potential customer a product or service and convince them that their lives will be improved if they just use that product or service. The door-to-door vacuum cleaner salesman tells us how his vacuum will pick up dirt that we didn't even know was there. The gadget manufacturer convinces us that our lives will be better if we have this or that gadget in our pocket. Selling is all about the benefits.

And we fall prey to that tactic as Christians. Being a Christian becomes about getting to heaven. Or the temporal blessings in this life. And we, the church, have made the gospel of Jesus all about the benefits.


But that is not what being a Christian is about. Being a Christian is about following Jesus. And we follow Jesus, not because of the blessings - although the blessings at times are great and the eternal blessing is worth living for - but we follow Jesus, not because of the blessings, but because He is worthy to follow.

We must empty ourselves of our selfish ambitions and vain conceit and just follow Him. And we do that, by doing what He did. He viewed others as better than Himself and looked to their interests, not his own. He was obedient, even when it got hard.

We follow Jesus because His vision of the world is the right one. We follow Jesus because He is worthy to follow. Forget the blessings. Those are just a byproduct of faithfulness. And even if they don't come, we know that we are following the One who is worthy to be followed.

Jesus did not come to be blessed. He came to be a blessing. Likewise, we live not to be blessed but to be a blessing.

On January 13, 1982, Air Florida Flight 90 crashed into the 14th Street Bridge over the Potomac River near Washington DC., tumbling into the icy river in the middle of a snowstorm. All but six passengers were killed. Some 20 minutes later, a helicopter arrived to rescue the survivors.

After getting one man to safety, the helicopter threw a life ring to Arland Williams. He immediately gave it to the passenger next to him. They threw two lines down and Arland helped to strap it on to other passengers who were struggling more than him in the freezing water.

When the helicopter came back a final time, Arland was gone. He had slipped under the water. He’d used his last ounces of strength to save complete strangers. Sacrificial love.

Have you ever wondered what the world would be like without you?

In the end of It's A Wonderful Life, George Bailey was able to see all the lives that he had touched.  And they reciprocated that love and helped him get his business back. It's beautiful.

It's a Hollywood ending. We like it. It's what makes It's A Wonderful Life one of the most popular Christmas movies of all time.

It's stories like this that makes us say to people when they suffer, "It will get better." Because when George Bailey suffered, it did get better.

But Hollywood isn't where we should get proper doctrine.
It may be unpopular, but things may not get better. Many of you know this all too well. Someone who has alzheimers. It's not going to get better on this side of the grave. Or a debilitating disease that you or someone you love is going through. It's not going to get better on this side of the grave. Some of you have experienced tragedy all too much. I have been in too many ICUs and done too many funerals. Things don't always get better. Sometimes they may get worse. Tragically worse. It's true that it may get better, but I don't think we're implying when we say "It will get better" that we may have to die to receive that "better."

We want the better. And we want it now. We think we deserve the better, especially if we're trying to be faithful to Jesus.

The idea that "things will always get better" just shows how inundated we are with concepts like the health and wealth false gospel in Christian circles. But the truth is that it may not get better. I may be the only person to tell you this because everyone is trying to build a facade around you, but the situation you are currently struggling with may not get better. You may be sick, and it could lead to death. You may work hard and not prosper. But even if we don't get better, even if we don't get wealthy, we still serve a worthy King.

We don't worship God because of the presents; we worship Him because He is worthy. When things are going well, we celebrate. We know things won't always be this great, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't ruin the good moments by worrying about their end. Celebrate the moment of beauty if that is what you are experiencing. Celebrate it without worrying about tomorrow.

And for those of you who aren't living in a moment of celebration, remember that He is there with you. Offering you comfort and peace where there should be no comfort and peace. Even in our darkest valley, God is still worthy of our worship.

Being a Christian and following Jesus, isn't about things getting better for us. That may happen. It often does. I've seen crazy, unexplainable blessings come to people who start giving and are blessed in return. God does seem to bless radical faithfulness. But we serve a savior who was executed, along with most of the apostles who followed Him. Being a Christian is really about humbling ourselves and serving others, being Jesus' hands and feet in this world because His hands and feet were nailed to a cross for us. It's about being Jesus to everyone around us. It's about following the example that Jesus set and living for others. That little baby born in a manger in Bethlehem was going to face a lot of pain, discouragement, obstinate people, and a disgraceful death in His days here on earth. Who are we to think we deserve differently?

"It will get better." That's the false gospel of Hollywood, happy endings, and many Christians. The message of Jesus is to humble yourself. To love God and to love others. Arland Williams was doing God's will and it didn't get better for him. The early Christians who gave away those grapes were doing God's will and didn't taste the pleasure. Mary Brenner, imprisoning herself for Jesus, was doing God's will. Jesus, emptying Himself, being born as a little baby, and living a life of suffering for us, was doing God's will.

If you're just focused on life getting better for yourself, then you will be unable to live the life of self-sacrifice that shows the love of Jesus to our world. You will be out of step with the song God is performing.

In The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe one of the children asks one of the beavers about the lion named Aslan.

"Is he safe?"

“Safe?” said Mr. Beaver. “Don’t you hear what Mrs. Beaver tells you? Who said anything about safe? ‘Course he isn’t safe. But he’s good. He’s the King, I tell you.”


When we teach that things will always go well for Christians, we make it difficult for those who are having tough times. In our bad times, our bad theology makes us ask, "Am I right with God? If I am, why all this pain, suffering, and sorrow? Do others think I am a bad Christian because I am suffering?" The truth is that you are still right with God, even if things are going bad. Even when you think you are a small star, alone, suffering in the darkness, Jesus came to show you love. This is Christmas.

So when we see someone suffering and feel the need to utter "It will get better" to give encouragement, recognize that it may not get better for the person we want to comfort on this side of the grave. But for you--following in the steps of Jesus--you should be willing to follow the teaching of the Christmas story, sacrifice yourself to make it better for them. Jesus was in the form of God yet did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped. Instead, he emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of us. Being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

It may not get better, but like Jesus, we need to be willing to remove our self-perceived loftiness - not self-perceived in His case - , be willing to get dirty, and make it better for others.

We sacrifice so that life is better. Like George Bailey did when he gave up his own plans and stayed in his small town to make it better. Like the people around George Bailey did when George needed loved back. Sacrifice makes the world better.

At this time of year, we celebrate the birth of Jesus. His humble arrival to this world. And this world will not be the same, especially when those who claim to follow Him model his humility and life of sacrifice. You were called to make this world better for others by sacrificing yourself. 

Sacrificial Parenting



I often hear a sentiment expressed by parents: "I don't help because my kids didn't sign up to go without. It's okay for me to sacrifice, but not my kids."

If we hold to that sentiment and don't help others because we don't want our kids to go without, then we are teaching our kids that the most important thing in life is not sacrificing or going without. Instead of teaching our children to serve others, we are teaching them to only serve others when it is convenient.

When we become Christians, we are dying to ourselves. That is what is represented in baptism. We are declaring Jesus to be our King, choosing to live for Him. If we are to live for Him, then we are to sacrifice ourselves like He modeled for us. This will enable others to see Him and make Him their king. Christianity shouldn't be about what can I get. About us being saved. About us being blessed. That is the lie of the consumer-minded American church. Following Jesus is about following Jesus as King of our lives. Dying to ourselves and living for Him.

And yet, we won't sacrifice some money because we want to use it on our children because we don't want them to go without some little toy that they want. By living this way, we teach our children, no matter what words we may use to make ourselves more comfortable in our disobedience to God, that the most important thing in life is to be comfortable rather than follow Jesus.

A few years back, there was a father standing with his two daughters on the platform at a New York Subway station. The train was coming in. Next to the family, a man starting having a seizure and fell off the platform right in front of the oncoming train. There wasn't enough time to get him out of the way, so the father jumped off the platform, grabbed the guy, positioned him between the tracks, and laid on top of him as the train flew over them, barely providing enough clearance for them to survive. That father was a true hero.


To leave his daughters on the subway platform to save a seizing man's life. That's what the gospel is about. To risk your life for another, at the risk of living your children parentless.

If we're honest with ourselves, we struggle with that level of sacrifice. Especially those of us who have kids. Should I endanger myself to follow Jesus if I have children? If following Jesus is sacrificial, if following Jesus is dangerous, do we really want our kids to follow Jesus?

The answer to both questions is a resounding "yes."

If I was given the choice between my children's teeth rotting out of their head or following Jesus, I would want them to follow Jesus with rotten teeth.

If I was given the choice between my children not knowing how to read and write or following Jesus, I would choose for them to follow Jesus while being uneducated.

All too often, I hear parents say that they aren't going to train their kids to follow Jesus. They say that decision has to be their child's decision. When people tell me this, it just tells me that they don't really believe. Because they don't let their child decide if they are going to brush their teeth or learn math and reading. They believe those are good things for their children, so they teach those things to their children.

It's also true that the children who we try to raise up in the Lord may choose to reject following Jesus some day. Just like God doesn't eliminate our free will, we can't eliminate their free will. They will always have the choice to follow Jesus or not follow Jesus. Just like they can choose to reject brushing their teeth, reading, or writing at some point in the future. But just because they can choose to reject these important things doesn't mean that we don't think it is important enough to teach these things to them today.

Thankfully, it's not an either/or. We can teach our children to brush their teeth and follow Jesus. We can teach our children reading, writing, and arithmetic and how to follow Jesus. They actually go well together.

But the best tool to teach our children to follow Jesus is us modeling what it looks like to follow Jesus. Stepping out in faith. Living dangerously when Jesus calls. We must follow Jesus if we want those around us to follow Jesus. The reason our communities aren't being reached for Jesus isn't because we haven't figured out the right program to reach them; it's because those of us who go to church on Sundays aren't surrendered to Jesus and living for Him. We don't model His sacrifice by becoming a living sacrifice for others.

We think we need to save ourselves for our kids, but we must really model the self-sacrifice of Jesus to them in order for them to be saved. Because in our attempts to save ourselves, we might just lose our children's souls.